5 THINGS THAT YOU DO DIFFERENTLY IN LOVE IF YOU'RE CONFIDENT

1.        You Are Composed: You are not easily threatened by your partner’s friendships/relationships-familial or friendly in nature-male/female because you are highly aware of your value and your worth. You know you are unique, special and have a ton to offer to your partner and this means unlike relationships built on insecurity-you both are not constantly arguing over his friends of the opposite sex (there are times when this is necessary but the difference here is the ability to gauge properly when it is and it is not).

2.         You Are Busy: In other words-you are not clingy-you don’t need to be around your partner, talking to your partner, near your partner on a 24 hour basis. You have your own work to do and your own empire to build-you are about your business and invested in other areas of your life that also require time and attention.

3.         You Have Time For Family & Friends: You don’t take your other relationships for granted because you are more aware of the value of both your family and friends and you respect the substance they bring into your life. Unlike relationships built around insecurity you are not always neglecting your friends and your family members or placing them behind your partner’s every priorities because you understand better the concept and importance in maintaining balance in your relationships.

4.         You Are Focused: You are not easily distracted by your partner’s life but are also focused on building your own-you understand the importance of being yourself and just doing you so you are more focused on being a better person so you can be a better partner.

5.         You Are Satisfied: This means you are not always looking for excuses why your relationship is not working which is different from aiming to improve your relationship. You understand that there will always be areas in which your relationship can improve and work towards improvement together-you do not allow your relationship to suffer as a result but choose satisfaction over struggling to move faster than your relationship can take-you pace yourself and your growth in the relationship.

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ARE YOU READY TO BE A WIFE NOW? (PART 1)

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THE POWER OF SUBMISSION

1 Peter 3:1-2 (NIV)

3 Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.

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1. Submit Yourselves To Your Own Husband: Not another woman’s husband-meaning you should not submit your standards-cause as women we tend to compare our situations to another woman’s marriage, happiness, issues-whether yours is better or worse is not your concern-submit to your own husbands-and you alone can do this-this is why the Word says you have to make that choice yourself. This means you first have to defeat the battle with yourself-the spirit of I can do it all myself/my husband is wrong and I am always right etc-you know what I mean right? It has to go-this is a battle you have to fight because it is between you and yourself and it is harder in this culture of women being distorted in the definition of independence-but we have to fight and we will win through the authority we have received in Christ. 

2. Behavior: As women of God-we should work on our behavior-the Word right here is telling you secrets about men-husbands in this context-actions say a lot more than words-the Word specifies your behavior wins them over not your words. So learn to submit your behavior-the urge to argue, to complain, to scowl, to punish with quietness-learn to submit it all through the help of the Spirit so your husbands may be won over-there is a deeper principle here-do not allow the enemy take a footstool (Ephesians 4:26-27)-this way your prayers have access for God to move your husband’s heart on your behalf.

When you have submitted spiritually, God can move on your behalf to produce results physically. Also don’t be moved by the culture of “independent woman” where as women we are told it is okay to be harsh, assertive, brash-I understand you are independent but don’t let it kill your marriage. Learn to see your husband as a partner not as a pawn or enemy. And this can be told by your behavior-for example, friends and enemies don’t behave towards each other the same way. 

3. Purity: When they see the purity (another Word on men). Men are visual creatures-straight from the Word of God. So listen-when your husband sees your purity-he is won over. This means for instance, when he sees your approach to issues you face in marriage, your approach to decisions-that are not contaminated by greed, selfishness but are active in the fruits of the Spirit of patience when he has don something wrong, kindness when he doesn’t even deserve it, love when you are both fighting and he does not deserve it-for instance-he is seeing purity in action-this is why the Word says faith without deeds is dead (James 2:26). Let your faith speak through your actions of purity. Purity here is so powerful because we receive purity through Christ this means choose the godly solution rather than the world's reaction-the world may tell you to argue, to leave-but the Word of God provides a different avenue-remember narrow is the way that leads to life (Matthew 7:14).

4. Reverence Of Your Lives: This means marriage is an act of worship. Reverence means deep respect. Listen I am not saying you worship your husband I am saying you worship the LORD in how you treat your husband. When you submit to the principles outlined here-you are ministering to his spirit because they will be drawn more to the Word through your deeds. It also means that this is an area that should speak in every area of your lives-not just when your husband is present or absent. Don’t speak against him when he is not there for instance-you both are one flesh-respect the mantle on your marriage. 

5. We Fight Differently: Notice the Word says he may be won without words -this is loaded with meaning-this means this is a fight in the Spirit-how do I know it is a battle? Because he needs to be won over. Marriages crumble when couples fight against each other rather than beside one another. The Word here is allowing room for unity very subtly-notice the partnership-the woman submits to her husband-the man responds to her actions-that is scriptural unity. Can two walk together if they are not agreed? (Amos 3:3). And the Word says a three stranded cord is not easily broken (Eccl. 4:12) This means that when God is in the center as the Word says here because scriptural principles are being applied, there is room for the battle to be won because if God is for us who can be against us? (Romans 8:31).

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This is why it is important to apply these principles in marriage. This is why submission is powerful. To allow the LORD move on behalf of your marital ministry. You have a say in how your marriage moves forward-why do you think the serpent attacked Eve first? She did not submit to the Word released over her marriage-do not eat the fruit-as women-submission is a big role in how the enemy has access to our homes-ask Eve. (Genesis 3:1-5).

So what's your choice? 

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5 EASY BRANDING SECRETS TO HELP YOU NOW

Hey Guys! So I was on a flight recently and I learned some really quick, simple branding secrets! Its crazy how similar business is across different fields-the difference is in the approach. Anyways! Check some quick tips below!

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1.    Service Speaks Volumes:  It is important to make your customer feel noticed and unique. It is vital to make one individual feel important in your service. How does your business and your team communicate your customer’s importance to them? Are they quick to respond to e-mails? Do they refuse to engage the customer in questions and answers? Do they rush the customer off the phone? These are questions that will help you identify how your customer feels about your business-do they have positive/negative/mixed reactions when your business is mentioned? Word of mouth is still very powerful and impressionable so make sure your customer service speaks volumes of positivity and not negativity to each and every customer.

2.    Experience Should Not Be Underestimated: I had a particularly nasty experience while flying with a popular airline that made me realize the power of perception. As you engage with customers in your market you need to ensure the experience they paid for is nothing compared to the experience they get. Your customer should always feel like the money was beyond worth the investment. So under-promise and over-deliver. This is important not only in the context of the product but the atmosphere, the team members, the fellow clients-the whole package is necessary to achieve this experience.

Let me give you a practical example: How many times have you completely forgotten about how lavish the food was at a respected restaurant simply because of a nasty altercation with the manager? Now put yourself in your customer’s shoes-it is NOT about the product-it IS about the person. Make sure your team is made up of people that are patient, kind, reasonable and logical when dealing with clients-the customer is always right for a reason-they hold the pay check-and hence the experience should be tailored around their perception.

3.    Be Innovative With Your Marketing:  The safety check infomercial on my flight caught my attention this time for one reason-the creativity behind it. Safety check instructions are sometimes placed on pamphlets in the flight or announced on screen. One word comes to mind when describing safety-boring. But its necessary. Hence as a business, you should find creative ways to engage your customer with the boring but necessary parts of your brand. This will affect the impression your business leaves on your customer’s mindset. For instance, the safety video was a mix of animation and classical nuances-it was engaging. The key word here is engagement. Depending on your budget obviously, it is important to communicate with your client in a language they would relate to and understand without effort-this is engagement. It could be how the menu is presented at a restaurant or the product is packaged for a service. You get the point!

4.    Appreciation: I never noticed this before for some reason but since I began to study business principles I have noticed that after each flight, the crew positions themselves to wish you a pleasant trip. This is simple but necessary. So let me ask: how do you show appreciation to your customers? Remember people want to feel noticed and valued. It could be a simple thank you note, call, message-the point is there is communication and a connection that is personal not public. This will also add to the impression your customer has of your business and how they respond or choose to engage with it in the future.

5.    Different Levels Of Comfort: Just as there are different classes on a flight depending on whether it is local or international (business, premium, economy for instance), is the same way your business should have tiers of comfort. There should be a correlation between your services and the level of intimacy you can provide your customer in terms of your product. This will enable your product to have different levels of intimacy with your clients-think about it for a second-your comfort levels vary between your family, friends and work colleagues-this is the same way your business should be able to provide your customer with the option to choose the level of intimacy he/she would like with your business. It is also an interesting way to weigh the trust factor in your business. Think about the example above once more: you are more likely to share personal information with family/friends than with your work colleagues for instance. So if your customer is willing to invest in your higher business tiers , it shows the value they place on your brand!

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