SUCCESS

Hey Guys! Hope you’re having a lovely week! I turned a year older this month and I’m so grateful to God for His continuous faithfulness in my life -He becomes more rooted in who I am each and every day and I’m excited to see what He has in store for me this year.
Normally, you all know I do talks and write ups and broadcasts on largely the matters of purpose and destiny. But today I am going to tackle success-its related but it’s also different.
I have a Soundcloud broadcast linked below that delves some more into this topic by discussing the financial flow that comes from talents you have.
But right now, I am briefly going to talk to you about success. Success is defined as the attainment of profit or popularity. It is also defined as the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.
Firstly, I want you guys to understand a very important and fundamental principle-success is in the same family as purpose and destiny. This is why when you look up the meaning of success you will always find reference to purpose, and even when you look up the meaning of purpose you will find it is connected to destiny. Just like your last name lets people know your family background, is the same way, success, purpose and destiny have connected meanings because they are related.
Now, to attain success, following on from that metaphor, you need to understand it has the same traits as purpose and destiny-starting with identity, and evolving into activity.
But today I want to concentrate on the traits that are key to attaining success.
Firstly, you need to protect your relationships. This is why I said purpose, destiny and success are all in the same family-in other words, you should not mix success in the same category as failure-success and failure are not family and they are not friends. What I mean is, you cannot hang around those that speak negativity or influence you negatively and expect a successful atmosphere. You need to surround yourself with go-getters, people that encourage you, people that inspire you and push you forward. Supporters are friends of success not failure.
So look into your life-and allocate those surrounding you accordingly.
This will enable your mindset to be influenced properly in an environment that is conducive and responsive to success.
Although failure is not a friend of success, failure is an acquaintance. An acquaintance is someone one knows slightly, but not as a close friend. The difference here is important. Failure is lack of success. In other words, where failure is a friend, success becomes an acquaintance-an occasional occurrence. This is why you need to be careful not to become familiar with failure. Keep it at arms length-learn from it-but don’t become comfortable with it-advance your knowledge of success.
You may ask: well Tolu, how do I do that? How do I advance my knowledge of success? By activating the language it speaks! This is the third step.
You need to learn the language of those that have known success-determination. This is a language that is spoken by each and every person that has succeeded-they have recognized this dynamic between failure being an acquaintance and making success a friend through consistency and communication through dedicated diligence.  
This is how you make failure an acquaintance-by refusing to speak in its language. A language of complacency and defeat. You will find that failures and successful people don’t speak the same way-they speak different languages.
Once you learn from your failure, continue speaking a language of success-of determination and consistent communication with your venture.
And success will speak back-which is why if you trace any of your inspirations, you will notice they continued diligently in their endeavors and they refused to make failure a friend. Rather, they studied success, they became more familiar with its language-and eventually success spoke back-sometimes it speaks back in such an audible note that it speeds you into the realm of a purpose filled reality in the blink of an eye-but this only happens when you have begun to engage it in speech-it starts as an inner whisper of direction. And you have to have an ear refusing to listen to failure but determined to listen to success.
These are some of the steps that are important in walking the path of success-realizing success comes from the family of purpose and destiny and hence cannot and will not hang around a family of failure which speaks a language of negativity.
So where are you missing in these key links?
Locate it and tackle it today. One important point I will reemphasize to summarize is: make success a friend and let failure remain an acquaintance.

Stay Blessed!

Here is the Soundcloud link to discuss financial flow:

KINGDOM COURTSHIP: WAITING

Hey Guys! I decided to do a blog post on waiting. I have a whole set of audio biblically based broadcasts on the topic of waiting and I may decide to bring that platform of discussion here to share some of my observations on being a saved sister and how to deal with the concept of waiting as a Christian.
This post is going to be very basic but biblical in its approach as you can tell from the title.
Firstly, I strongly believe in waiting for the right person to come along before venturing out in courtship. That is the whole essence of courtship. And for those that don’t know-courtship is the Christian term for dating. I define it personally, as saving yourself from a ton of emotional, mental and even physical stress by allowing your spiritual radar to detect when you are faced with a person that is not genuine in their actions but tries to deceive you with their words.
This is why it is so important to have a relationship with God.
It is the basis of a solid foundation that cannot be shaken by any random set of factors that may seem to align with what you are expecting in a partner.
Also, this post is focused on Christian courting because this is dating with a purpose-marriage. This is dating with an end goal in sight-dating to ensure there is compatibility because of your similarities and even your differences and allowing the Holy Spirit to move in you as an usher-divine assistance-in understanding one another.
Mind you, when you are actively involved in a relationship with God, the whole season of waiting is not spent in idleness. There is purpose in each season we are given on this Earth. So even while you are waiting and praying and preparing for marriage, there is purpose in that season of singleness.
I like to emphasize this part specifically because sometimes as Christians we get caught up in our present situations and we become impatient for a partner that meets all our truest desires, but I want to emphasize that that person is worth the wait. And by extension, you are worth the wait. Someone is praying for a partner that has all the attributes God is developing in you in this season.
 There is a reason you are waiting for that person and that person is waiting for you. There is a divinely directed set of circumstances that would orchestrate your encounter that is prepared in the Spirit-and as long as we stick to God’s plan for our lives, as long as we keep following the leadership that comes from the Holy Ghost, and growing as Christians which will inevitably produce fruits of progress in your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual capacity, we are in agreement with divine destiny.
And a lot of people don’t understand this: your partner is found in the place of purpose. I did a whole series of this in my Kingdom Courtship series on Soundcloud (I’ll attach the links below). They will not be found outside that place.
 This is why identity is so important. Have you ever been in a space where you questioned your identity? By virtue of a person, a place or even a position? Then you need to tackle it-identity is the core. And as I explained in my previous post on Spiritual Awakening-when we come into a deeper understanding of self-when we build a relationship with Christ-you awaken your true nature. And your true nature is so beautiful-it would be a shame not to find it-no one else can awaken it. Some people look to others to awaken parts of themselves-and that creates messy situations.
It is important to have a good and growing idea of whom and whose you are-and we find this the more we investigate our true nature and ourselves. And even biblically speaking, and personally so, I found myself in Him. He showed me parts of me I was not even aware was there. And the purpose of this in this post on waiting, is to show you how key your individuality is to partnership.
Remember, I am not addressing casual dating here, I am addressing waiting for marriage-I am addressing courtship with purpose-Christian courtship. And an important question I heard once is will you date you? In other words, look at yourself-will you be happy to date yourself? Will you be content with your own company? If you are not, I don’t understand how you think someone else would be.
Would you want a partner that lacked identity? Of course not! So work on yourself-in this place of waiting, it is such an important season-the last couple of years you will be single-before you are joined in marriage because you have followed divine timing. So don’t fall pressure to society’s calendar-keep working while you wait.

Keep doing you! Enjoy the season-learn more about yourself-impact people with your personality and your talents-God calls us to shine in all seasons-He is our glory-and it is in Him we find peace-and when He makes you complete, when He becomes the centre of your identity-you will find peace in trusting that He is preparing and about to present to you the partner that will have a similar foundational standing-a partner that will compliment your attributes and through every season you will be together because you stand on the rock that is in Him-the rock of eternity.

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SPIRITUAL AWAKENING

Galatians 2:20 (NIV):
20 I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.

Hi Everyone! Hope we are having a fruitful 2016. Today, I wanted to discuss spiritual awakening. Spiritual awakening is described in the urban dictionary as a shift in consciousness, an apperception of reality which had been previously unrealized. Basically, it is a shift in consciousness -it is a realization that was previously undiscovered. And this is the awakening we are subject to when we come to Christ.
This is why the Word says, I have been crucified with Christ-in other words, my flesh was left behind on that cross-my old life is no longer here-I am not the same person anymore. I no longer live but Christ lives in me. It is a place of complete surrender to Him-a shift in personality, perception and purpose. And it is truly a beautiful experience-when you don’t have the same thoughts that bound and depressed you because you are no longer subject to the same attributes-your mindset shifts in Him-you begin to change. You are transformed:

Romans 12:2 (NIV):
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

This is a process that happens during the transformation-your mindset shifts. And you realize in this process of relationship and walking with the LORD and being intentional about spending time with Him and being intentional about getting to know Him as we are supposed to be-and as we do when we get to know people-your mindset shifts to become like His.
Just like when you make new friends and they influence you, this is the same way He begins to influence you. And just like you value the relationship you have with your closest friends more than acquaintances, it is the same way your walk with Christ will be reflected in your relationship with Him. The more you spend time with Him, like you spend time with any other person, the more you get to know Him, and the more you value His voice, and the more you become accustomed to knowing when He is speaking-its really like any other relationship just a beautiful and supernatural experience and spiritual awakening because in Him, you realize so much more of yourself that you could not have figured out on your own. His perfection graces your imperfection with His presence and His holiness is reflected in your life as you walk with Him.
I want to be clear: becoming a Christian is not a journey of boredom and burden. I like to emphasize this because I fell into that particular category of people in thinking walking with Christ was a burden because I understood religion; I did not experience relationship. But when I started to step into relationship, it was the best decision of my life. You are not perfect in any way, it is just His perfection graces your imperfections with His purity and His presence which is why relationship with the Holy Spirit is so important. And I will be discussing this as well-I might even do a whole series of posts on this because the Holy Spirit is such a key part of walking with God.
When you have a relationship with God through His Holy Spirit because you have accepted the Son, Jesus Christ, you begin to realize a lot of things you would not have been possibly able to do on your own as a result of this partnership.
And I want to be clear once more-it is not that there will be no challenges, it is not that at some times you will not feel weak, you will but His presence carries your burdens, and He shows you aspects of your person and your personality that are reflected in His presence. Its like looking in a mirror and I discuss this in my book Gift of Grace it is like walking into a new dimension of understanding not only your actions but how your actions are viewed by others. It is a place of peace, and abundant love when you walk with God. And when He begins to move in your life, when you surrender to His will for you, you find you begin to do and achieve things you alone would not have even thought possible because of the presence of His grace.
This is the beauty of spiritual awakening in Christ. I don’t want people to think it is burdensome because there are some habits that you don’t want to give up, or some particular hobbies you enjoy that are frowned upon by the Christian faith-listen-God hates sin but He loves the sinner. And we are all sinners:

Romans 3:23 (NIV):
23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,

All He requires from you, is to lay yourself on that cross in surrender to Him-He will strip you of your old self. And I want to emphasize, this is the job of the presence of the Spirit in your life, you are transformed by the renewing of your mind.
So don’t be discouraged or afraid to come before Him because of who you are, trust me, we have all done things we are not proud of in the past, and we all have less than admirable attributes-we are all human-but when you come in contact with the divine, when He touches you, you will change in His presence:

2 Corinthians 3:18 (NIV):
18 And we all, who with unveiled faces contemplate[a] the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into his image with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.

So I encourage you-step into this deeper dimension of living-it is truly freedom and you will not regret it.

I made that decision, and it is the best decision I have ever made in my life.

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DISCOVER YOUR IDENTITY

Happy New Year! I was going to post on self investigation but then I realized self investigation is essentially identity. People need to understand that identity is the core of your being. And without the core, a structure collapses. When you realize your identity, it becomes more difficult for your structure-your personality-to collapse because your core is secure.
A core is defined as the central or most important part of something. Basically, your identity is your core-it is your person-your essence at the center of it all-at the center of your thoughts, your actions, your dispositions, your beliefs lies your core.
And the thing is, if you don’t understand your core, your identity, everything else is thrown off balance. This is why I refer to identity so much whenever I talk about anything to do with personal progress.
To actualize destiny you need to connect with it. And to experience this connection, you need to nurture identity.
You may ask, well how do I find out my identity? Well, I like to make the point always that this really is a process of self-discovery and personal growth. It is the same as nurturing any other relationship-you start with introduction.
To introduce means to bring a subject to the attention of someone-so bring yourself attention to yourself. In other words-focus the lens on your personality. Start with your name as you would when you meet a friend. And then find points of interest-your likes, your dislikes, your hobbies-the same conversation you have with those you have just been introduced to is the same conversation you should begin to nurture with yourself.
This is how it all starts-introduction.
And from introduction, exploration begins. In life, we have a cornucopia of experiences, so many different colours and textures of influence have shaped the habitat of our mental and personal environment and dispositions-and each needs to be explored to create a richer and much fuller experience of yourself.
This is why it is so important to start from introduction, so you can appropriately distinguish experiences that flow from exploration.
And from exploration, comes revelation. This is such a beautiful process that is never ending but consistently intertwined in our daily experiences and challenges-it is a vibrant thread that runs all around our life engagements and explorations and creates a beautiful tapestry of potent force and fire that can ignite another individual’s purpose.
That is the beauty in the process of identity. It is a river of different tastes and textures and colours that provide a beautiful story of unique beauty through individual experiences and self appreciation.
This is why it is so vital to enjoy yourself-celebrate your authenticity. Your footprint is unique-the Earth needs your words, your thoughts, it needs your recipe for individuality.
And if you fail to engage it, it becomes a wasted experience. This is why it is so dangerous to attach yourself to another person’s identity. I emphasise the fact that the Earth can smell a counterfeit-this is the reason why so many fail to make a mark on another person’s footprint-because the Earth and essentially people recognize through an inbuilt impression of recognizing originality, that it is counterfeit. 
I understand that this journey is not easy and it is in no way rapid-I remember struggling to find my identity for a while, and it was such a confusing journey that led me into many experiences that took more from who I was than contributed to who I am. But you know what, even those tiny spots of pain, or prolonged experiences of grief, are all part of the thread that is woven into your unique journey-and the truth is, as the colours combine to create a unique combination of truth in tragedy, and purpose in pain, and even strength through weakness, you are confronted with your true identity in the process.
So embrace whatever season you are in-even if you don’t understand it-I can tell you one truth, every single second of time that has been used in your life, serves a greater purpose in the prose that contains your own fingerprints.
And it will come to light through your darkness, there will be revelation through your pain, that will contribute to the person you have been and essentially build you into the person you really are at your core.
All these experiences act together to give you a voice that speaks with truth, a poise that speaks of purpose, a passion that burns with a unique fire because you have gone through the flames of pain, mixed with the coals of collision that have purged you through and through into the beautiful ornament of originality that is contained in your identity-this is the unique light that burns through your core when you speak-so embrace the journey towards discovering your identity-it is really the most important part of the journey towards connecting with destiny.

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