They stared at each other unsure of what lay ahead but
certain of where the trail had led behind their aspirations, and dreams and certainties
and visions and collective intuitions, somehow the journey had led to a state
of dissolution caused by distractions infected with dead desires and dreams cut
off before birthed in the space of affection.
And then they wandered if this was a decision they were
willing to push through despite the avenue it introduced to their
personalities, despite the warnings it birthed in their inner sensitivities and
it was at that point they each started to question their initial
reactions-their initial attractions, the groundwork that laid the footprints
for that first conversation; that had led them to this moment of complete
isolation. And so she went into her quiet space and began to ponder on
decisions; while he waited and communicated his uncertainties through his acts
of disappearances-suddenly the language they both spoke was made of daggers and
pokes and failed to gently prod answers to questions they left unspoken; they
communicated in vocabularies loaded with accusatory fingerprints.
And so the question she began to ask herself was, how can
you tell when the conversation is done? When can you begin to question if he is
the one? She was sure his thoughts wondered in this same direction-funny how
they both faced the same decisions but communicated it in different ways
through their actions-they both realized this was the end of the road of a
joint journey that now winded into different paths. But these thoughts failed
to manifest into actions that communicated clarity and understanding but
instead birthed pain and anger in their personalities.
And so I ask you this question: how do you know he or she is
the one you would spend the rest of your life with? How are you sure they can
bear that position in your reality? Well I recommend an inner diagnosis.
Start from the beginning-your heart, your core
characteristics.
What do you want from yourself? What do you want produced in
your personality? So many of us face this question at different stages in our
lives, through daily decisions and new experiences-but it is dangerous to allow
a stranger into this space of intimate reality when you are not certain if they
hold the power to be able to navigate through your inner thoughts and your
inner sanctuary. This is when it becomes dangerous to intertwine with a partner
in intimacy-so are you sure of who you are before you move forward on your
path? That is the question you must first ask.
An inner evaluation is necessary to produce an outer
remedy-to a situation that has reached the point of new decisions that need to
be birthed in your being.
So when you come to this path of crossroads with signals
that point in distant directions-you must first face yourself to be able to
navigate with clarity.
After you have made that decision, the next step is to look
into this person’s actions and understand if their vision communicates a
similar action of confirmation-I warn you not to pay attention to words that
fail to carry actions into reality. Such words translate into a language that
host imagination and confusion not clarity and communication.
The latter two are necessary for a partnership to bloom in
prosperity. If you receive distractions for dedication, inattention for a cry
for inclusion, I am afraid you have already faced the answer in their actions.
Now you face the challenge of communicating through words
making them aware of your vulnerable position. I am addressing situations
unique to the platform of real intimacy not deluded attempts dotted and
sprinkled with only sexuality-but rather a conversation that hosts a language
of love and growth and determination in its folds. I do not speak of the cloak
many people hide behind in lust driven woes.
I speak of the desire to see this person as a part of your
future possibilities. As a partner in your present realities, as a friend you
can trust with your past experiences.
Do they trigger these questions in your heart? Do they
confirm in actions that speak of certainty? That they would hold you up and not
tear you down? That they would always be there providing shelter in your storm
and in your shadow of haunted memories?
If they push that
trigger-then I would recommend you attempt to join them in this journey-I would
say as for now, it seems you are both facing the same directions in your
destinies and hence continue to communicate, continue to be consistent, and
continue to connect in your individualities-build your relationship on this
foundation and there will be no perilous prospects ahead that would withstand
the sanctity of your unique understandings of each other’s personality.
But if instead these questions are foreign in your landscape
of communications, if instead these questions of commitment have never met an
answer in consistency, if they have never been translated into actions even
after your reoccurring attempts for reception-to be communicated with in
conversation, to be heard beyond the deaf ears of distraction-the answer is
quite clear that you have reached the end of that conversation.
They cannot follow you forward because at this point, the
universe has shifted your unique perspectives and challenged your individual
realities-it is futile to fight it-because it is a fight that needs both prints
of dedication to be able to proceed-but with only one set of fingerprints
marked with scars of tears, shouts of pain, a consistent sense of failure, a chasm
of chaos, a hole of isolation -then clearly, this is not a partner that can
give you future prospects in their actions.They draw you back to past reactions.
And if you make the decision to move on in your journey
apart from this muted companion, there will be so much truth you will find on
the other side of your choice to honour your intellectuality-and not give into
the foolishness that comes from believing in a person that has given you no
basis to trust words that never manifest into hands and feet dedicated to move
forward.
This is how you know if the person you are with is truly the
one.
You
are at the beginning-and to continue in that journey, the
summary is, can you trust them to be faithful in all your experiences? Have you
seen actions that have supported this dream, this desire for future references
of happiness and bliss and even marital peace? If not, don’t walk down that
road facing their direction, you will leave yourself behind while clinging to a
connection that was lost once you reached that cross roads of questions.
You would have sacrificed your life, your future
possibilities, and even your present happiness and sense of serenity, for a
partner that has not proven they can bear the weight necessary to produce
collective stability.
