3 KEY SECRETS ON RELATIONSHIPS NO ONE TALKS ABOUT

1. Your Business Isn’t Everyone’s Business: Don’t share every single detail about your relationship with everyone-learn to protect your peace-watch how you speak about your partner, what you say about him/her and who you say it to. Unless you allow your relationship to become everyone’s business-and when everyone is involved in your relationship, everyone is invested in your happiness-which is never good for you because everyone’s definition of happiness is different. So learn to keep your relationship private, away from social media, from friends, from even family members except those closest to you. 

 

2. You Have To Start The Right Way: I did a whole teaching on chemistry here. 

You have to start the right way so you do not end the wrong way. Make sure you pay attention to their personalities from the beginning-do not ignore the little things like selfishness, lack of kindness, how they speak to other people-pay attention so you don’t regret it later on. When you start the right way you allow your relationship to start facing the right direction-so don’t start based on sexual chemistry for instance-are they good people, do they act on their words? Ask yourself serious questions. 

3. You Have To Know You’re More Than Enough: Insecurity destroys relationships from the ground up. If you start your relationship based on insecurity your relationship will be riddled with many weeds based on insecurity. You have to come to the place of knowing you’re more than enough. You have to understand that you have a huge variety of options to offer your partner-this will dictate the level of respect you get and even give in the relationship, the level of love you allow yourself to feel in the relationship and how you allow yourself to be loved in the relationship.


These 3 Keys will help you make the right decision in your relationships. 


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3 MYTHS ABOUT ROMANCE THAT YOU'VE FALLEN FOR BEFORE

1. Chemistry Will Sustain The Relationship: Chemistry will NOT sustain the relationship-I’m actually teaching a masterclass on chemistry in the Facebook Group here.

Chemistry changes depending on your connection-it could become better or worse-it is relative NOT static. What attracted you to your partner today, may be the same reason you have issues with each other tomorrow-so you need to pay attention to your partner’s personality not the chemistry to be able to grow in the relationship together. Concentrating on only chemistry will make you both grow APART as conditions change in the relationship as happens to all couples.

2. I’ve Met His Family & Friends-The Next Step is Marriage: Ummm no. Just because you’ve become acquainted with his/her inner circle does not mean your partner is necessarily thinking about marrying you. It simply means they are comfortable enough around you to make an introduction or depending on your partner’s personality trait it could mean nothing at all!

Everyone’s priorities are different-just because you place a high level of importance to introducing people to your family and your close friends does not necessarily mean your partner feels the same way.

Or it does not necessarily mean that just because your partner does place a high priority on these relationships-a natural conclusion to that line of thought for him/her is marriage-so don’t think your relationship has reached a higher level of importance simply because an introduction was made. 

 

3. I Can Change Him/Her: No you can’t. Only he/she has the power to do that and the sooner you realize that the better. In fact, both parties are going to change in the relationship regardless of whether you like it or not-this is why some relationships end and some continue-at some point or the other you both must have changed into different persons with different perspectives-but when you have a partner you have to be willing to work together to have the same vision and alignment of ideas-just like in any partnership. If your partner in this scenario-your boyfriend/girlfriend is not willing to go on this journey with you-you cannot FORCE them to. So no you definitely cannot change him/her. Only they have the power to do that. 



5 THINGS THAT YOU DO DIFFERENTLY IN LOVE IF YOU'RE CONFIDENT

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1.        You Are Composed: You are not easily threatened by your partner’s friendships/relationships-familial or friendly in nature-male/female because you are highly aware of your value and your worth. You know you are unique, special and have a ton to offer to your partner and this means unlike relationships built on insecurity-you both are not constantly arguing over his friends of the opposite sex (there are times when this is necessary but the difference here is the ability to gauge properly when it is and it is not).

 

2.         You Are Busy: In other words-you are not clingy-you don’t need to be around your partner, talking to your partner, near your partner on a 24 hour basis. You have your own work to do and your own empire to build-you are about your business and invested in other areas of your life that also require time and attention.

 

 

3.         You Have Time For Family & Friends: You don’t take your other relationships for granted because you are more aware of the value of both your family and friends and you respect the substance they bring into your life. Unlike relationships built around insecurity you are not always neglecting your friends and your family members or placing them behind your partner’s every priorities because you understand better the concept and importance in maintaining balance in your relationships.

4.         You Are Focused: You are not easily distracted by your partner’s life but are also focused on building your own-you understand the importance of being yourself and just doing you so you are more focused on being a better person so you can be a better partner.

5.         You Are Satisfied: This means you are not always looking for excuses why your relationship is not working which is different from aiming to improve your relationship. You understand that there will always be areas in which your relationship can improve and work towards improvement together-you do not allow your relationship to suffer as a result but choose satisfaction over struggling to move faster than your relationship can take-you pace yourself and your growth in the relationship.


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