Ladies! This week I wanted to discuss these 5 Secrets to your Singlehood with you!


Waiting Is A Gift Not A Curse: Waiting has so many gifts that could be unwrapped if single godly women learned to treat it like a season and not a sentence. During this period you learn to draw closer to God, you learn to be single, happy and God-fident, you learn what it means to be a godly woman in faith and in deeds, you learn how to wait the right way, you learn when a man’s intentions are true or not, you learn to listen to the Spirit of God and so much more! But this is only when you start to see this season as a gift and not a curse.

I discuss a lot more about WAITING in our first Episode of the on going series IN THE WAIT right here



Surrender Is Part Of Being Single: While you’re single you learn to surrender your timing to God. You learn what it means to let God have His will and His way. And this means you do not get married when you think you’re ready but when God says you’re ready, you do not get that promotion when you want it but when God says you need it. You learn the beauty in surrender is to trust God’s timing in al things and not your own understanding (Prov 3:5)

Submission Is Key: You start to understand what it means to be a woman of faith who also practices submission. This is learned through your relationship with the Holy Spirit. He teaches you this as you submit more and more to His leadership because the children of God are led by His Spirit (Romans 8:14) which means you don’t give that guy a call back because you learn to submit to the leadership of the Spirit of God telling you he just wants to be sexual with you, you learn to walk away from men and opportunities God has shown you are not good for you even though you’re lonely and would like to settle for whats available right now. You learn to not go back to your ex because you submit the decision that he is not the right one for you to God, you learn to be content in your waiting because you have submitted the process to the Holy Spirit.  

There Is Power In Prayer and Fasting: You begin to learn in your season of singleness the power of prayer. You start to develop the gift of prayer God has given you and exercise it to help you stay motivated, focused and fighting in your faith and in His will for you. You begin to operate on a much higher frequency of who God has called you to be when you start to understand the power in prayer and this is unearthed during your season of singleness. You begin to feed your spirit and starve your flesh. This can be taken literally in terms of fasting but it also enables you to grow spiritually. You learn the power in fasting and how to fast and fight in faith. You learn what it means to be a woman of God, called of God and the authority that has been released in your life through this process of surrender, submission and sacrifice that comes with following God and not man and channeling your growth in learning to fast through the leadership of His Spirit. Fasting will teach you to deny your body of its wants for what your spirit needs, fasting will teach you to be more spiritually alert, fasting will feed your faith, prayer will be the fuel to your faith. You can learn all this and use it as a weapon during your single season.


Sacrifice: You learn the power of sacrifice-the power of saying No when God says NO and learning to be deaf to the desires of your flesh because you are feeding your spirit. You learn what it means to become a living sacrifice to the King of Kings and how this means you can no longer determine when and what and how your desires should be met but you have to come to the place of choosing to lay all these thoughts and wants at the feet of Christ and sacrificing it all for what and where He has placed you in this season to be used. You learn through sacrifice to mature in your faith and mature into the woman God has called you to be. 


These are some powerful secrets that are operative in your season of singleness.

You will be tested and the more you learn to activate these steps the more you will be ready to fight with your faith when the tests come. 

My series of teachings are available to help you delve deeper into this process. To learn more about waiting the right way, you can check out our series In The Wait Episode 1 right here

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