Relationships foster connections, they build nests of
communication, filled with the chirping of consistent conversations, eager to
be heard, happy to laugh, ready to weep and available to receive from another
companion-a sense of a cherished union.
If there is anyone present in your life that feeds the
energetic plug of deceit and leaves you shocked in a spiral of electric heat,
if there is a person, or a position, that drains all your energy and leaves you
constantly charged with hefty defeat, then you must release them back into the
air of silenced perception. The air of silenced perception is inhabited by
people that you have not yet met with connections, it is a space where people
roam around but they hold no space in your heart-the difference here is, this
is an expired communication.
And hence just like any sour tasting produce gone stale with
inattention, it is time to translate that experience into a present of gifting
your future with freedom from the past.
Don’t feel bad for making that decision. It was necessary in
order to move forward.
You see, people struggle with understanding how deceit
proceeds. They see it in their daily connections, they inhabit it in their
homes and even their close circles of conversations, they tolerate and make excuses
for people that have created a space of deception to monitor and occupy a
position that should be surrounded with serenity-an inner sense of stability.
This is because they have decided to give into the imagination of recurring
second chances. Like, what if he does not
behave that way anymore? Maybe next time he won’t speak to me with such a
disgusted reaction? Maybe she is struggling with an inner sense of torture?
But
who made you the monitor of another person’s conscious decisions?
Who made you the
arbitrator to resolve inner torments that struggle for attention within another
person’s perception? You do not have to carry the weight of another person’s
burdened decisions. It is not your responsibility; neither do you have the
authority to occupy that space in their daily decisions. So excuse yourself
from their inner chaos. Don’t apologize for moving forward with your life-where
you supposed to stay still and die? In the space of rejection? The space of
incomplete conversations? A lack of communication? A consistent taste of
disappointment and growing feeling of urgent resentment? Why carry another
person’s decisions as part of the luggage you have to deal with in life’s daily
situations? It is not your place to decide or determine whether they are
struggling with an experience from their past-you should not be the object of
their backlash. So excuse yourself from that situation. I am dealing with
relationships that add more pain than purpose-relationships that give you less
joy than you bargained for. There comes a point, where you will have to make a
decision, to move forward, or to stay still and become statuesque in
desperation-draining day by day, month by month, and even week by week as you
give in to their consistent tantrums. I believe, we have been placed on this
earth, to receive and to give-and if you are giving more than you are receiving
that is a withdrawal that has been overcompensated on your compassion. That is
an exchange that is corrosive with the presence of corruption. It is an experience
that reeks with an emotional dysfunction. And you are the bait that is being
used to balance the scales of another person’s actions.
So you have to make that decision-for the sake of your
family, for the sake of yourself-for the sake of your future and even your
present position. Do you want to move forward or stay standing still in a
position of confusion? I don’t believe we should house relationships that steal
from the bank vault of our humanity-relationships that steal joy, happiness and
peace, and birth deceit, deception, and dissolution at your feet as you limp
forward trying to struggle to push them ahead in your daily attentions.
Don’t weigh yourself down with that decision-let me tell you
a secret-life does not respect these sort of decisions-destiny has no time for
your emotional overcompensation-it does not understand why you would place
yourself as a sacrifice on the alter of selfish desires inhabited by another
person’s life-because that is not your position. So stop stepping out of your
direction, stop blinding your path and move forward! Let go of whoever is
holding you back from your future. They cannot come with you on this
adventure-but you could join them and live consistently in an awakened
nightmare filled reality. That is your decision.
Family is not a choice-it is a part of your composition. So
I am only talking about the people that form the vault of your daily
evaluations like friends and even intimate partners you have chosen to allow to
wonder into your inner recluse-the sanctuary of your most cherished
possessions-be careful what treasures you give them in time, money and
attention, they may not be positioned to respect or even to respond to the
value in your evaluation.
Your evaluation of your time may not translate to their
calculation of your effort. And so it is an unbalanced equation.
So make that decision to move forward-release yourself from
the grasp of delusional dedication-there is no such thing as a friend that
offers bitterness for consistency, there is no such partner that gives you
stress when you try to give them serenity. That is just not a transaction that
has a bright future-so make the right decision and give yourself the gift of
your present decision-to move forward, and to return them back into the air of silenced
perception-the space inhabited by people that have not been welcomed into your
inner path, your daily direction. That will be the best decision for them, and
more importantly for you-this would unleash in you the strength to move forward
because you have silenced the voice of negativity in your conscientiousness and
now, you have an ear ready to receive destiny, because remember-destiny does
not partner with distraction.
They face different directions-so let these thoughts occupy
your attention as you evaluate, elevate and de-activate connections, to be able
to embrace yourself, to be able to progress into your future, to unleash that
inner fire that lies dormant because it is constantly quenched in an
environment of stale saturation.
A product of a flood of fake ties kept afloat by the
sacrifice of your sanity in exchange for their lives. Don’t hold to that
lie-let them go so you can be free to realize the power of being re-energized
into a path filled with pebbles of purpose dotting the lines for destiny to be
birthed in your life.
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