When you step unto a stage of commitment, it is important to realize
you are already complete. All that is left is for you to discover that
completion.
People usually place their hearts on a pedestal to be used, abused, ignored,
and violated emotionally and mentally; failing to acknowledge that their hearts
also carry worth.
Before stepping into dedication and commitment to another person, it
is important to come to a point of commitment and appreciation for yourself.
How do you achieve this? How do you begin to know your value and
take note of your worth? How do you begin to see the beauty of your features
both inside and out?
Without answering these questions, your heart will remain on that
pedestal of suffering because you have not placed it high enough to be valued
or given it enough strength to see its worth.
So how can you expect to receive commitment when you do not know the
meaning of having self-dedication? How can you begin to speak of knowing your
worth when you do not even understand the concept of having value? It is not
possible to achieve a life that sees growth when you live in an environment
that starves progress.
In order to understand your value, you have to discover your worth.
These are some steps I believe will help you to achieve this:
1. Spend time with yourself.
This seems obvious enough but people do struggle
with this. Instead, they run into the arms of someone else hoping to discover a
filling to a void that ultimately comes from within. When you spend time with
yourself, you begin to understand who you are-flaws and all. You start to see
your actions, speak your thoughts, live your reality without having to consider
the opinions of another. And this will lead you to a point of not only growing
as an individual but also discovering your value.
2.
Be sociable.
Have a group of people around you that enable
you to speak your truth. Live in an environment that allows you to nurture your
honesty. This will enable you to grow as a person.
3.
Your worth starts to bloom.
When you walk in an atmosphere of honesty, you
allow your worth to begin to speak because you are living your truth. This will
not only naturally allow your relationships to build with people but will more
importantly foster your relationship to build with yourself.
4.
Your heart grows stronger.
As this happens, the pedestal you placed your
heart on starts to grow stronger and more confident because you can now see
your value and you know your worth. A lot of people do not see their value because
they do not know themselves and as a result they do not know their worth.
5.
Confidence develops.
This will enable you to be more confident with
your interactions with people and less tolerant of disrespect to your person.
This naturally happens because you now value yourself. And anything you value
you do not allow to be disrespected.
Now you
have reached a point of discovering completion and realizing that you do not
need anyone to make you complete. You are complete. You are beautiful. You have
value. You contain worth.
7.
Complementing Others.
Hence you start to move towards a direction of
complementing your partner rather than leaning on them for completion. This
applies to all relationships. You begin to complement your friendships, your
family, your partners in every aspect: at work, home, and in your surroundings
because you have allowed your natural colours of truth to shine. You have
allowed your voice to speak. And it will speak in a language of completion and
confidence because you now realize your worth.
8.
Respect.
When you have come into a place where you realize
you are worthy of respect, you have now come into completion. This is because
at the end of the day you need to discover yourself. In discovering yourself
you have allowed yourself to become complete. This will enable you to
understand that not only do you have value and worth but also, more
importantly, your worth and value carries weight in aiding those around you to
grow and develop.
9.
Explore.
When you have realized this, you begin to
explore avenues to allow your sense of completion to complement your
environment. In doing so, you have to remember you contain worth to be shared
not to be isolated. There is no value in isolating your worth. In allowing your
completion to complement those around you, you have contributed your worth to
the growth of another person’s value. This will enable not only a sense of
completion to be more important to you, but also, will speak positivity into
another person’s life.
10. Haters.
As this begins to happen, you will also
notice, there will be those that will not appreciate your completeness. There
will always be those that will question your worth. But in arriving in a space
of comfort, you have to come to a place of positivity. There will always be
people that fail to appreciate the beauty in a diamond but that does not mean
the diamond does not continue to shine.
These
are steps that I believe will enable you to come into a space of completion
where you channel positivity. In following this outline I believe you will
begin to live in your true self-your completeness packaged in your worth filled
with inestimable value.
God Bless You!
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