THE VASHTI SYNDROME


All passages used here are from the New International Version translation of the Word. 


Esther 1:10-11:

On the seventh day, when King Xerxes was in high spirits from wine, he commanded the seven eunuchs who served him—Mehuman, Biztha, Harbona, Bigtha, Abagtha, Zethar and Karkas— to bring before him Queen Vashti, wearing her royal crown, in order to display her beauty to the people and nobles, for she was lovely to look at.


How many of us are filled with pride like Queen Vashti? She was one of the most beautiful and powerful women in the kingdom because of her husband’s position:

Esther 1:1:

Queen Vashti Deposed.
This is what happened during the time of Xerxes, the Xerxes who ruled over 127 provinces stretching from India to Cush:

Yet she did not appreciate the gravity of her position and the weight of her decisions. A woman filled with pride will fall. Pride consumes personality.
Vashti was beautiful but her personality was ugly. The Word says she was lovely to look at. Her beauty placed her amongst kings but her pride cost her the crown. Women want to concentrate on their outer adornments: beauty, hair, makeup, clothes, shoes while failing to build character. Beauty cannot keep you in the midst of success, it can be an asset but also a liability.
Vashti became a by-note in the Word after this chapter; she was replaced by Esther-a woman who recognized humility and used it to adorn her beauty.
The Word says:

Esther 1:12:

But when the attendants delivered the king’s command, Queen Vashti refused to come. Then the king became furious and burned with anger.

The king did not simply state that Vashti should be brought before him, but that she should be wearing her royal crown. He wanted to show off Vashti not as a beautiful woman but as his wife.
She failed to understand this message because her pride blinded her perception and understanding. Therefore, she failed to recognize it was her husband calling her not just a man.
Her position was speaking but she did not listen to it because her pride had infected her values. The king was furious because she had disrespected not only his command as sovereign, but as her husband. She had also disgraced his position and authority.
The king sent all seven eunuchs who served him to the queen. This is because he respected her position. And yet she did not respect his. It shows that he treated her as his partner not his possession. Queen Vashti saw herself as a possession and not as a partner that is why she disgraced herself.

Pride brought her lower than her position and she could not even see it.
The king recognized her authority if not, he would not have sent all his eunuchs. Yet she did not recognsie his.
How many of us expect our partners to respect us when we do not return the respect?
This caused irreparable damage to the relationship between Vashti and the king because she had insulted him in front of his subordinates:

Esther 1:3:

and in the third year of his reign he gave a banquet for all his nobles and officials. The military leaders of Persia and Media, the princes, and the nobles of the provinces were present.

He was also new to the throne because it was his third year. This means he had to display his authority. Vashti failed in her role as a wife and ultimately as a woman. She failed to recognize that she should have supported her husband and not prioritize her role as a woman of pride.
Pride births foolishness. If not, Vashti would have realized the message the king was sending in the manner he sent it-with all his eunuchs present-clearly showing a position of partnership and equality.
She was disrespectful in front of other women; she misused her position of influence:

Esther 1:9:

Queen Vashti also gave a banquet for the women in the royal palace of King Xerxes.

He was also giving her an opportunity to win the hearts of her subordinates by coming before them as a queen wielding her weapon as a woman: her beauty.
She lost her place of influence because of her pride; it cost her royalty:

Esther 2:4:

 Then let the young woman who pleases the king be queen instead of Vashti.” This advice appealed to the king, and he followed it.

We should be careful that we do not succumb to the Vashti syndrome of pride which only births foolishness and disgrace and removes us from the position of favour.
One of the key lessons in this passage for me is that one should be careful about perception. Beauty does not hide personality.
Focus more on building your character and let your beauty be an asset to your humility rather than allowing pride to cost you your blessings.